DISCLAIMER: if you message me with something crude, like wanting to bend me over or eat me out before you even say hi, Iβm not going to respond. Yes, we both know weβre in the kink, yes itβs important to me but honestly a stranger talking about having sex with me before even saying hello is not attractive. There are plenty other things on my profile to talk about or if you want to talk about kink that thatβs fine, but have some class. β what type of things are you into?β βwhat got you into kinkβ, βwhat makes you want a dom or what do you look for in one?β. You donβt have to jump straight into graphically, telling me what you want to do to me.
Iβm a curious brat who loves to push limits and test boundaries, so if youβre looking for someone whoβll just behaveβ¦well, bye . Iβm new to BDSM, and honestly, I canβt wait to explore it all. Expect lots of questions, about everything.
Iβm up for almost anything once (or twice), but here are my firm nope zones: anything involving vomit, ***, feces, pet play, race play or age play. Otherwise? Letβs see what happens. I can be a switch, but honestly, I want to be the submissive at least 80% of the time. I crave ***, nipple play, teasing, being bitten especially if youβre going to leave a mark as a souvenir (I also enjoy leaving my own marks), losing control, and being thoroughly dominated. Make me squirm.
Iβm looking for an actual relationship, not just a sexual relationship. I canβt see myself doing a one night stand. Either way, I expect my boundaries to be respected. if we start something intentional and for some reason it doesnβt work out but weβre still compatible in a a lot of ways I would consider a FWB situation.
Communication is huge for me. Fair warning: I ramble and send long messages (case point, this description). Not because Iβm mad, because I always want to be understood. I need someone who can handle honest conversations, give and take criticism without turning it into a competition or argument, and actually engage. Please donβt make me carry every single conversation or ask all the questions. If youβre interested, show me.
Outside the bedroom, Iβm a total nerd who loves learning new things, wandering around small music festivals, and listening to everything from rock and Broadway to hip-hop and jazz. I can be a homebody, so Iβd love someone whoβll gently drag me out to try new adventures but, who also enjoys cozy nights in. I can cook us a nice meal, we can cuddle in bed or on the couch while watching a TV show.
I will add I am 5β10 so no offense but Iβm not really interested in anyone under 6 feet. A very interesting 5β11 man may get my attention. Also, I am specifically looking for black or men of color.